You all I just finished my first quarter of grad school. I am working full time, have extremely challenging students, and taking two classes. I ran off of 5 hours sleep, which I need my sleep because my body gets a lot more tired than an average person, had to say no to plans and parties with friends, cried A LOT (almost every night), and drank a ton of caffeine (Red Bull, tea, coffee, soda, you name it). It probably was the most taxing eight weeks I have ever experienced. I definitely was not prepared for it...& I don't know how I survived and today I found out that I got 100% on my final paper in one of my classes that I worked 15 plus hours on. I am not going to lie I legit cried when I read what my professor thought of my paper. But I wanted to write on here what I learned over these last 8 weeks.
It's okay to say no
I am very much a yes person. If you want to go somewhere I say yes. If you need a favor I say yes. & If I don't say yes oh my I feel extremely guilty. I feel bad and doubt myself. But through the last 8 weeks I realized its okay to say no. If they are your true friends and your family they will understand what is on your plate and they will move on from that no and not hold a grudge. I am a person that wants to please everyone and through this quarter I learned I just can't and it is okay to say no.
You gotta take time for you.
Oh this was a big one. I would work a 10 hour day and then get home, eat dinner, and immediately get to writing assignments. It is okay to take an hour to just chill, to say no to just have that moment to rest, to have time to stop and slow down. This is a huge lesson I keep reminding myself because we get so caught up in the movement and busyness of life that we forget to take time for you. I have learned that was probably the most beneficial thing I did for myself. I wasn't so grouchy or easily frustrated after days/moments I just chose to rest.
You gotta have a support system.
Oh man is this true. I don't know how many times I went to my family and friends and said I can't do this I'm quitting and they would always cheer me on and say yes you can. That reassurance is what I needed to keep pushing on and not throw in the towel. It also taught me that I need to be that positive encouragement to others when they need it.
It is okay to cry.
Lastly, it is okay to cry it out, to scream and get mad. You gotta release those emotions otherwise you will go crazy. I don't know how many times I just cried out my stress or screamed at my computer because I was so frustrated with my assignment. That is okay my friends, don't hold it in.
These are the lessons i will keep reminding myself in this next quarter. But I just wanted to remind you all just think of the obstacles you have overcome in this life and think how in that moment you did not think you could do it but look you sure did. Don't give up my friends because you never know what will happen or what you have learned at the end of the tunnel.
It's okay to say no
I am very much a yes person. If you want to go somewhere I say yes. If you need a favor I say yes. & If I don't say yes oh my I feel extremely guilty. I feel bad and doubt myself. But through the last 8 weeks I realized its okay to say no. If they are your true friends and your family they will understand what is on your plate and they will move on from that no and not hold a grudge. I am a person that wants to please everyone and through this quarter I learned I just can't and it is okay to say no.
You gotta take time for you.
Oh this was a big one. I would work a 10 hour day and then get home, eat dinner, and immediately get to writing assignments. It is okay to take an hour to just chill, to say no to just have that moment to rest, to have time to stop and slow down. This is a huge lesson I keep reminding myself because we get so caught up in the movement and busyness of life that we forget to take time for you. I have learned that was probably the most beneficial thing I did for myself. I wasn't so grouchy or easily frustrated after days/moments I just chose to rest.
You gotta have a support system.
Oh man is this true. I don't know how many times I went to my family and friends and said I can't do this I'm quitting and they would always cheer me on and say yes you can. That reassurance is what I needed to keep pushing on and not throw in the towel. It also taught me that I need to be that positive encouragement to others when they need it.
It is okay to cry.
Lastly, it is okay to cry it out, to scream and get mad. You gotta release those emotions otherwise you will go crazy. I don't know how many times I just cried out my stress or screamed at my computer because I was so frustrated with my assignment. That is okay my friends, don't hold it in.
These are the lessons i will keep reminding myself in this next quarter. But I just wanted to remind you all just think of the obstacles you have overcome in this life and think how in that moment you did not think you could do it but look you sure did. Don't give up my friends because you never know what will happen or what you have learned at the end of the tunnel.
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