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Here's your pasta...it's Cerebral Palsy right?

Friday night I went out to dinner with my parents. As I sat down in the booth I thought it would be like any other night out to dinner. Our waiter came and we ordered drinks. After I had given our waiter my ID then things change. I expected the typical "I will be right back with your drinks" instead I got, "it's Cerebral Palsy right?" 

WAIT! What? Wasn't expecting that one.

He then went on to say that he was a caregiver for a man that had severe Cerebral Palsy. The man couldn't talk but he had a device where he could type what he wanted to say with his forehead.

As the waiter left my dad proceeded to ask me "isn't it nice for someone to just outright say it. I mean you know he was thinking it".

The answer is YES!. It rarely  happens that someone just outright says it and I think that is why I was caught off guard. We tend to keep the obvious to a quiet. Like "I don't wanna say anything for fear of it offending her even though I really wanna know". Society just loves to think that staring or wondering is better when it really is not.

If you ask me I would rather you be upfront like that waiter because it makes everyone feel more comfortable. That waiter probably knew from working with the man that he didn't like people staring and would rather have people be honest. I mean it might be different for others but for me go ahead I love it when people are curious and bold enough to ask. Boldness is where you find beauty and where you jump into the unknown just to learn more.

So thank you to that waiter for your boldness and compassion for the disabled population.

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